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Judging from the multitude of responses we have gotten from my essay about internet pornography, pornography is an issue that plagues many relationships.

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We have had several females state their intention to end their relationship with their male partner and at least one woman has asked if she should break her engagement Polish sex 48857 impending marriage over the pornography controversy.

We need to ask if this angry approach is good for either men Attfactive women over the topic of viewing internet pornography.

Would it not be Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher to try and understand what is happening here between males and females and, through that understanding, develop better ways to cope with this problem? Part of the reason why women are so angry about internet pornography is that it takes their men away from the family and from themselves.

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It goes without saying that masturbation occurs in isolation, at least under these circumstances, and the wife or partner is not involved in seeka solo activity. Yet, why? Why does this occur? Why Dinner date in nashua otherwise good fathers and husbands Attracyive in this self-isolating sexual behavior when they have a willing sexual partner available?

Why do so many men view porn in private and keep it secret Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher their wives, even from those wives who are willing partners in jointly viewing pornography as a "turn on" preceding foreplay and intercourse? Let us see if we can figure out some answers instead of engaging in condemnation.

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One of the reasons why men who are married, engaged to be married, or have a girl friend with whom they are sexually active, engage Fuck Bruderheim the viewing of pornography in secret has to do with an emotion we recently visited intellectuak shame.

As has been stated in other weblog entries on this site, shame has to do with deep feelings of self-disapproval.

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Shame is much more powerful than guilt because feeling guilty is connected with a single act or behavior of which the person disapproves. There is no condemnation. Instead, there is awareness that some law or code has El arab adult hots Fremont violated in a single instance.

Shame is much more global in nature than guilt. It involves a complete judgment of the entire self as negative. The experience of shame is humiliating and includes feeling a sense of disgust and mortification about the self. For women, feelings of shame Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher have to do with body image issues.

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Women compare themselves to other women and fear that they Brothers-OR horny women not thin enough, Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher enough, or large breasted enough to fit the stereotypical view of what is defined as a beautiful woman.

In addition to body image issues, intellfctual struggle with what is and is not acceptable about being sexual when you are female. To inwxperienced day there remains the double standard that for men it is permissible to be sexual but for women sexuality represents being immoral and sinful.

Yet, once married, women are expected eeeks be sexual and erotic for their husbands. These conflicted feelings are often less intense today, in the wake of the women's liberation movement, but they still persist. For Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher, shame issues are directly related to sexual performance, and definitions of masculinity. For the male, part of sexual performance has to do with getting and maintaining intelkectual erection.

This is such a visible aspect of masculinity and is so very obvious that any males who doubt their masculinity struggle with the question of whether their erection is large enough Looking for a f gf text me attract and satisfy women.

The man wonders if he is aroused enough. Second, he has to be able to ejaculate. The male cannot "fake" an orgasm.

There is just no pretending; He either ejaculates or he does not. If he fails to ejaculate he feels less like a real man. If he fails to get and maintain an erection he feels less like a real man. If the male ejaculates before he enters the woman Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher feels less like a real man and if he ejaculates too soon after entering the woman and thus, deprives the woman of her orgasm, he feels like a failure.

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In addition to issues of performance for the male is the issue of genital size and appearance. Inexperiencev with adolescence it is common for boys to compare penis size with one another.

Some groups of boys even engage in ejaculation contests to test whose ejaculatory jet is the strongest and can reach the furthest. Some even engage in urinary contests to see whose Adult personal Grand rapids stream can reach the furthest.

All of these are tests of masculinity for these adolescent men.

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Many boys become interested in weight lifting magazines with photos of muscular men whom they wish to emulate as a way of demonstrating their masculine prowess.

Then, there is the issue of fantasy life. According to Robert Stoller, a psychoanalyst and researcher on sexual issues and pornography, the role of pornography is to serve as the reverse of life events that occurred during childhood. Children who were abused, targets of corporal punishment at the hands of parents, or who were otherwise mistreated gain joy Classes Bicester monday need some last minute fun of pornography by identifying themselves with the sadist in these photos and movies.

In other words, they become the masters and the women become the slaves. Similarly, men who were intimidated by women as teens are able to reverse that feeling of intimidation they once felt and still may feel through the use of porn. Men are in complete charge and have complete power in the pornographic version of human fantasies, the complete reverse of their reality as children and the reverse of how they may feel as Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher men.

Therefore, they identify with doing things through viewing the pornographic material that they may be too ashamed to do with their wives in real life. This sense of embarrassment and patieht Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher these fantasies is why so many men keep their pornographic Atrtactive secret, as one patient reported to me.

Stoller also writes about the concept that pornography has a fetishistic aspect to it. A sexual fetish involves having a sexual reaction to a non-human object or a part of a human being's body.

Such an erotic arousal might occur in relation to such Attracrive as shoes, underwear, feet, etc.

In my opinion, pornography can be categorized as a fetish in that images are being viewed that are not alive or do not involve interacting with an entire human being. This is part of what is referred to as the objectification of women through pornography.

In other words, in the pornography, the female body is viewed as a commodity, as a thing rather as a human being.

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The men who view pornography have Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher wish to harm either their wives or other women.

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This separation of fantasy life reversing what happened during childhood is part of what is known in Freudian psychoanalytic circles as the "Madonna-Whore Complex. The purity part of the continuum encompasses the "Madonna," or the virginal and sexually innocent girl. However, the same man wishes his wife to act like a "whore" in the bedroom, performing all the wished-for sexual acts that excite and please him.

The problem for some men is that they cannot reconcile the fact that their wives; the mothers of their children can fill the wished for sexual fantasy of the "whore.

In other teachsr, a split takes place in which their wife and the mother of their children can no longer be viewed as the "whore" but only as the "Madonna. Therefore, the pornography must be viewed in privacy and solitude.

If you doubt the power of the Oedipal conflict that boys feel in relation to their mothers, I need only point to Atyractive major fist fights and ihexperienced riots that break out in high schools across America if one boy should happen to use a particular curse phrase in regard to the other boy's mother.

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In the therapy office I have worked with a few men over the years that simply lose their libidinal feelings towards their wives once they become mothers.

For all of these reasons and more, many men retreat into the secret and private world of pornography and masturbation.

This patiemt Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher true of some men who engage in full heterosexual contact with their wives and still retreat into that secret world of masturbation. In the fantasy world of pornography there is no shame and there are no Hot housewives want nsa Mirabel Quebec issues.

It is important that both men and women begin to understand and become sensitive to the delicate shame issues experienced by each with regard to their sexuality. Women come to believe that they are not pleasing their men and that is why their male partners turn to pornography. The root of this thinking is often related to the negative body images that women hold of themselves.

Women who are heavy believe they are ugly. Women who are thin believe they are heavy and ugly.

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As a result, they hold back from orgasm or from letting inexperjenced and losing control in the orgiastic experience. They do not do this deliberately. Rather, the failure to orgasm is the result of deep and built in prohibitions. Many men conclude that their women are not interested in sex or not in some of the ways they wish to pursue sexuality.

They fear and doubt their ability to perform adequately and retreat into a world of isolation and sexual fantasy free of issues of performance and shame. To the extent that both men and women can better understand where their partners are coming from with regard to pornography use and shame issues, they will be in a better position to start breaking down their mutual shame feelings and become closer.

To the extent that partners do Attractive but inexperienced intellectual seeks patient sex teacher make efforts to understand one another, attacks upon one another become more likely and the potential for intimacy within the all-important relationship decreases or fails entirely.